Friday, July 31, 2009

Stress...

"Stress... Is when your heart says no, but your mouth says, "Absolutely, I will do it the soonest..."

Today, I was wondering about things that are happening in my everyday life. I wake up early in the morning, around 5:30 am, cook rice so I can bring it to office and save a little for my savings, then take a shower, after I have prepared myself, I pick up my bag and wait for a jeep, but the funny thing is... I'm always late...

One day I saw a guy wearing a shirt with the design, it says about stress.. It made me smile, yet it made me think, I'm I stressed? Really.. I thought I was gonna laugh there out loud, but I realized I was inside a vehicle where no one knows me, and laughing will make them think I'm crazy..

But, reading again and again the thought about stress, what comes out first in your mind? Me.. Yes.. It is absolutely correct.. Saying yes to everybody, even if we really don't want it to do.. But, another question here is, why do we say "yes"?

I can consider myself, once in that situation, where, my whole heart says no but I actually said "yes"... It was a funny thought, a lot of people told me, I was so stupid to say yes, and actually I really wanted to say "no," but for the first time, I thought, why did I say yes in the first place... The answer was, I was curious what will be my life after that decision. Now I believe in the saying, curiosity killed the cat...

The thought here is that, in this life, we have the decision, the choice, that is why God gave us the free will to decide for ourselves. And to know what will be the results of our decisions, whether its good or bad, we just face it. Now, I admit, I am sad about how my life is right now. Because, I'm bored, I'm stressed, and I really don't like what is happening. Well, that's the result of my decision, but I say, just keep on going and there will come a time that I can fulfill my dreams. Just don't lose that hope, and pray.. Pray for strength.. Pray for patience..

Stressed? Just reverse the words, and you will have the sweetest one..

Self Improvement

That first peak is the best place to pause and look back, to see if you took the easiest route, to learn the lessons from the first climb. And it is the best place to examine the terrain ahead, to change your plans and goals, to take a deep breath and begin climbing again.

By Michael Johnson

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Acceptance...

Being in a situation, where, you don't like to be there, asking "Why am I here?" is really a struggle. A lot of us usually say, "Why do I have to get through all of this? All of these crap! I don't even want this!", anyway, this is usual. All of us has problems, however, some problems are really, really hard to deal with..

Based on my own experience, I've met a lot of people who are really down and want to give up, but, one thing I've noticed, there is one thing that keeps them alive, the faith that everything will be okay, even though its not immediate, but still they are keeping their faith. There was a point, that we really want to ask God, personally if only possible, what's going on, why life is like this, why are we going through all these pain. But, have you ever thought, what could be the best thing that we can see behind all of these pain we feel?

Not all.. Not all think this way.. I admit, once I asked God, what is my purpose in life, then I realized, what a fool I am. Why? Behind that question, I was asking God, why did you let me live, to only feel pain and depression. There, I realized, what the word "acceptance" means. To accept regret, to accept everything I have, to accept that everyday of my life I will encounter pain, to accept the reality that I was a failure... It really hurts.. The pain...

I thought about what could I do to overcome it, then when I learned to accept the things that are happening, I began to thank God, for all the misfortunes, unusual it is, but, it felt good. At least, HE is still giving me a chance everyday to see the sunrise, and seeing the situations behind all that is happening. I still have friends, family. I'm still lucky right? And acceptance really feels good, it makes me see things in perspective that I will surely pass this test. It makes me think about good things ahead of me, it teaches me to have faith in Him and also to myself.

"To feel the good things behind all the bad things that are happening, we should accept the bad things that are happening to us, then believe, it has a purpose, believe that after all of this, life will be fine... Acceptance... Hard to do, but we should take the risk..."

Monday, July 27, 2009

Take It Positively

All of us have these struggles, problems, hindrances, whatever you call them. Its a situation where you want to give up on all the things that you are going through. Its not also new to hear these words: "there is no problem that God will give that you cannot solve."

Just like in Mathematics, every problems has a solution, whether this is Algebra or the subject I hate the most, Integral Calculus, it has a solution. However, formula such as the ones used in Algebra does not apply to our real lives, here, we really need to do something, think about it many times, until we find out what is the best thing to do. In our lives, trial and error is not possible, because we are dealing with reality.

We experience emotinal stress all the time, and our only outlet is to burst things out, curst them all, curse the one causing you the pain, curse the situation you are into, curse everything.. We don't realize a lot of people out there are experiencing worst things than what we have. Once I cursed my life, why don't I have things other has, I'm doing all the things that needs to be done but what comes back? Nothing...

One night I was watching television, then a story about a child was shown, her mother was in jail, her father was gone, she has nobody but herself. The child lives beside the jail where her mother was into, and every afternoon, her mother will throw a bag of foods, I don't know if I can call that "food," it was a leftover of other prisoners, the walls of the prison was built with barb wire, and luckily the bag was not torn, the child has supper for that night. Everyday, that situation happen, the child no longer go to school because she only has 50 pesos on her hand everyday. Sometimes she goes to school, sometimes no. She has a dream, to become a lawyer so she can defend her mother.

Now, what is my point about this story? In our life, once we will feel deprived, so down, that we want to give up. But, have you ever thought that some one out there, who really needs help, more than you do? We must take it positively, every problem that we encounter. If you have no shoes, at least you have 2 feet, and you can walk.. Your hair is so dry, and you don't look good, at least you're healthy, unlike those who have cancer. You don't have those fabulous dresses that actresses wore? At least, you have a dress, and a pair of jeans that you can wear, unlike those out there, wearing nothing at all..

We should always look on the positive side on the situation that we have, even having the worst situation... Not so easy? Try it, it will make you feel good...

Saturday, July 25, 2009

What it takes to persist

You already have what it takes to persist. For persistence is nothing more than continuing to do what you've been doing.

Persistence makes the difference between no achievement and great achievement. And persistence is available to all who choose it.

The enemy of persistence is that little voice you hear in your head that urges you to give up. When you hear that voice, remember that you don't have to do what it says, and you don't have to fight it either.

Just listen to that voice, allow it to have its say, and then calmly let it go. Keep on going and you'll quickly be beyond it.

Remember often, with great detail and passion, why you've chosen to do what you're doing. Keep your focus on the goal, and know that by continuing to progress on your journey, one step at a time, you'll get there.

Persistence isn't complicated, and it doesn't require you to uncover some deep, dark, closely guarded secret. You have what it takes if you'll simply choose to do what it takes and persist until the job is done.

-- Ralph Marston

Source: Great Day

Friday, July 24, 2009

No life is so hard that you can't make it easier by the way you take it.

Jimmy and Karen were out catching insects for their science class. Jimmy had caught a gray moth and Karen a monarch butterfly.

"My moth sure isn't very pretty," Jimmy said as he looked at the two insects. "Now I'll have to catch something else."

"Oh, but it is," said Karen. "See what a fat body your moth has compared to my butterfly, and it's got fuzzies on its wings."

"You're right," said Jimmy, beginning to smile at his moth. "I was almost going to let him go."

How many times in the past have we taken just a quick look at something before rejecting it? Often, simply because a thing isn't quite what we expected, we don't give ourselves a chance to discover what it is that makes that thing beautiful. There is a secret beauty in everything, even ourselves. When we take the time to seek it out in other people and things, especially those that have disappointed us, that beauty is reflected in us, too.